Here is another honest and
insightful guest post by the Sophisticated Socialite on the subject of being
single. I hope that this raw and interesting entry speaks to the heart of my
single readers. It is simply not enough to be a “Diva or Divo in waiting”,
live, love and make memories even as a single person. - PD
On
Singleness
A guest post by The Sophisticated Socialite
Being
single has its perks and its not so perky moments. I, like everyone else would
love to meet the right person and start a new chapter in my life. What I have learned
in my extended time of singlehood is that good things take time. So what’s the
rush? Well, there’s peer pressure, family pressure and we can’t forget about
the ever so faithful media pressure. All these things combined can be draining every
now and then on single Divas and Divos.
Personally,
the message I get from all these mediums of pressure is that my life will
become complete once I have found the “one”. Though this is a very romantic way
of looking at life, I have come to think otherwise. In my time as a single
woman, I have been lucky enough to be surrounded by many accomplished women, most
of whom are members of my family. All of these beautiful, successful women
achieved high levels of success and reached their goals before they tied the
knot. This brought me to the revelation that being single frees me up to do
just that…go after my dreams. For me, being single means the freedom to do, be,
live and chase whatever it is that I need to at the moment. I have started to
pursue my passion of cooking, taking guitar lessons and even enrolling in martial
arts classes. Singleness has afforded me the opportunity to serve God in the
way that He intended for me to serve Him…right now.
No
worries my Lovies, I do not plan to be the spinster sister with twenty cats. I
will patiently wait for my big beginning. You know, the moment in the story of
my life when I bump into Mr. Right at the grocery store, a bookstore or while buying
my late night coffee fix at Starbucks. I can wait because I will enjoy this
time to become more like the person I eventually want to meet. To all the
single Divas and Divos waiting for that special one, learn to live and LOVE
yourself before you can expect someone else to live with and love you!
XOXO,
The Sophisticated
Socialite
Are you a Diva or Divo in waiting? What are some of the
positive things about being single?
I recently celebrated a
birthday and I find myself constantly thinking back to my younger years. Of
those years the only words that I can use to describe myself are bold,
adventurous and brave. Funny enough, it is those times that I prayed the most
for boldness! As I get older, I have become more mild and calculated in my
decisions. 
I had the occasion to visit with a fairly new friend. We laughed and
squealed with glee as we talked about our undergraduate years. We bonded over our desires to make a mark on
this world. We also bonded over our desire to create a household conducive to
having an orderly family life. Though she was a few years my junior, I listened
to her concerns and marveled at how similar our plight were. I realized that we
were women of a certain age. Our priorities had shifted with time. We were
shells of our former naïve selves, and even though we relished our youthful
times, we did not mind the grace and dignity that time and age had afforded us.
You can recognize women of a certain age because they are endowed with the
wisdom to appreciate their past (the good and the bad). Women of a certain age
have the ability to look back at their experiences and realize that more
experiences and lessons will come. 
As I left the gathering, I realized that
though at times I lament the passing of my youth, I continue to hold on to the opportunities
that being a woman of a certain age has afforded me! To all Divas and Divos of “a
certain age” out there, relish and treasure your time. Live and be in the
moment!
